In a relationship we form a vessel that holds all our hopes, worries and desires. When our relationships are working we feel charged, on top of the world and like anything is possible. However, as many of us find out, relationship stability can vary and change over time, even the most seasoned or happiest couples will have their share of issues that arise throughout the lifetime of the relationship. We may realize that the relationship is not what we expected, our chosen partner is not the person we imagined them to be, the dynamic of the relationship has changed, infidelity has taken places, there has been a new or added stress or the couple might feel as if they are growing apart. The vessel that once felt strong and stable for the couple may start to feel less secure.
Many people are able to adjust to life changes and restructure the relationship, but in some cases, changes to the relationship can result in a lasting negative effect. Disappointment, anger, judgment, grief, worry and fear begin to replace the initial hopes. It is at this point professional help is suggested.
My office provides a safe place and judgment free area where the couple can work through challenging issues and difficult feelings with an experienced therapist. My role is to provide an environment where both individuals feel safe to think, speak, understand, empathize, acknowledge and navigate their personal issues. By having this safe place couples are able to make decisions with greater clarity and understanding, allowing them to make healthier life choices. It can often be difficult to bring such personal and private matters into the open with a stranger and if that is the case, we will work at the pace most comfortable for the couple.